Inside The Nice Guy
Why I’m Here:
There has been a significant amount of internal deliberation behind what my exact intentions are regarding the purpose of ‘Inside the Nice Guy’.
For a site that began as the perspective on dating and relationships from the eyes *and mind* of a Nice Guy, a metamorphasis has taken place in the last 6 months.
An addendum has been made explaining what type of content you can find here but I’ve recently realized I’ve never really explained why I decided to begin blogging.
In a life perspective:
Trust is given until given a reason to take it back. There is respect until disrespected. I firmly believe that if you treat others kindly they will so the same in return. For those who greet your kindness with cruelty and deceit, well…karma’s a bitch and they have what’s coming to them.
No! I’m kidding.
However, a favorite philosophy often subscribed to (by others and myself) is the act of ‘paying it forward‘. One good turn deserves another. See a good act, give a good act. Did someone do you a favor? Offer a hand to someone else in need.
I think Coke explains this perfectly for me *no, I did not get paid anything from the Coca Cola company for this…but if they should feel it proper to follow the videos message (yes you Coca Cola Rep) e-mail me at insidetheniceguy@gmail.com *
In a dating perspective:
I’d like to be a symbol, for men and women alike, who read various blogs looking for help in a game that has no written rule book.
I’d like the ladies, who are looking for a good relationship with a decent gent, to know that we are out there. Somewhere is a guy who will open the door for you. Listen to your problems without trying to solve them. Buy little gifts that happen to remind him of you just because. Try to be the source of all your joy and never your pain.
I’d like the ladies, who feel it doesn’t get better than where they are now, to know that they don’t have “settle”. Never think that you don’t deserve a particular type of man. Never disregard your right to be happy.
For every Frank T.J. Mackey, there is a Lloyd Dobler.
I’d like all the gentlemen *and I mean this as my like-minded Nice Guy* readers to realize that the age-old stereotypes in gender roles, of being a mans-man, the guys-guy, don’t necessarily apply in present time. You don’t have to pretend you’re not interested in a woman to get her attention. You don’t have to engage tactics of a Pickup Artist to get a date. The game of Cat & Mouse does (and does not) absolutely exist. It doesn’t matter if you participate in sports or are in the theatre. Whether you watch documentaries or play video games.
To my fellow gents, this is your reminder that you can find someone being just who you are.
You do not need to be Arthur Fonzarelli *though don’t get me wrong, he was one stand-up guy*
A short message to the Bad Boys, Dicks and A-Holes:
Keep doing whatever it is you’re doing *not that I encourage the mistreatment of a woman*. Though it can often be frustrating to reverse the effects of your actions, and restore faith in the Y chromosome, your antics and habitation in Tool-topia only make us Nice Guys look that much better.
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Wait, is this real? You exist? Nahhhhh, this can’t be.
I grew up in the midwest too, it’s what makes me so damn wholesome….
I lived in Kansas once – Wichita. Worked forty hours a week. Then my job had me commuting to Winfield where I interviewed pig farmers at the Comfort Inn for a big client that was about to pay my salary for working a sixty hour work week. Good times in Kansas. Gorgeous sunflowers in the fields though….
I think I shall read more of this crazy ass blog of the nice guy who writes “A-holes” instead of Assholes….tell me Mr. Nice Guy….can you show me proof of this man you speak of? “Somewhere is a guy who will open the door for you. Listen to your problems without trying to solve them. Buy little gifts that happen to remind him of you just because. Try to be the source of all your joy and never your pain.”
Posted by 35maplestreet | January 12, 2012, 10:49 pmBelieve it. Just repeat this line over and over “We’re ready to believe you.”
Okay, so I stole that from Ghostbusters but it still applies one way…somehow.
I think the best proof I can provide is that fact that I’m writing what I’m writing and have actually done those things I originally listed (that you copied).
But keep on reading. Though I’ve been a bit MIA lately I’m hoping to jump back in here soon with some more advice and general knowledge, etc.
Thanks for stopping by.
Posted by Matthew | January 20, 2012, 7:38 am